(Cross-posted on postTrump.help.)
Keep it on an even keel.
Kids need routine and stability. You need routine and stability. In the middle of the world falling down around us, the only one who can provide routine and stability for you and your children is you.
You may be feeling like you can't keep it together logistically, if things get any worse (and that may be true). You may be feeling like you can't keep it together emotionally for much longer (or that you aren't currently keeping it together emotionally). But you have to stick to routines, for your kids and for yourself.
There are three things to know about all the madness swirling around us right now:
1. You can't fix everything that's happening. There are some things you don't have any control over, and there's no leverage point you can access to control those things. There are some things you do have influence over, and you need to take action, but you can't do everything on every front. If you have a daily action plan, follow that. If you don't, get one, and then follow it.
2. You shouldn't fix everything that's happening. It's not your job to. There are 188 million adults in America who didn't vote for Trump, and if even 3% of us are active in resisting, that's more than 5 1/2 million people doing resistance work on a daily basis. That's a lot of people, and more are joining us every day as the Bannon administration gets worse and worse. There are jobs for everyone. But no one should try to fix everything, because it isn't reasonable. And no one else can take care of your children the way you can. That's still and always your most important job.
3. The bad guys are creating chaos on multiple fronts because they can, and because they're trying to incapacitate you with panic. If you stop living a normal life, they win. If you dig in to routines and to normal life, you win for everyone. Your stability and consistency provides stability and consistency for the entire country. If you descend into panic or obsession, that undermines the exact structures and systems we're trying to save. Don't help them destroy things. Grit your teeth and keep going.
This is going to be a long fight. And now that we know how to fight, we're going to be fighting forever. So you need to find a way to create a good, safe environment for your children in the middle of the struggle. That means keeping up routines, including emotional routines. Hugs, kisses, snuggles, wrestling, feeding them good foods, making sure they get exercise and seeing sunshine when there is any, helping them with homework, asking them to do chores, following daily and weekly traditions, seeing friends, staying connected to family members, maintaining faith routines, and play. Lots of play.
Your heart is breaking, but don't let that break your kids' hearts. Stay boring, loving, and solid for them.
All my love,